Do you emerge from your showers feeling anxious? Are you slip, tripping, and falling into your to-do list before the water is even down the drain?
I used to be one of those people, emerging more frazzled than refreshed. My anxiety overwhelmed me so much that no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t scrub it off or even towel dry it away.
Ever since I was a child I used phrases or statements, repeated frequently, as a tool to overcome self-limiting beliefs and behaviors. My favorite phrase, “choose love over fear” ushered in the beginning of the transformation in my life from anxiety to peace when I realized that anxiety-provoking to-do lists are based on fear.
It could be the fear of not having enough time, enough money, enough approval, and on and on. You get the idea.
When I focused on choosing love over fear it was like using a good shampoo to get my hair squeaky clean. I followed that step by applying the conditioner, which really smoothed things out, and that is the saying that “our thoughts are not always true”.
Voila! I was on my way to a stress-free life.
Or so I thought.
Through my daily meditation and mindfulness practices, my body awareness continued to become more acute. It was about 2 years after I thought I had conquered anxiety that I realized that the tightening sensation in my belly wasn’t really gone, it was just buried. There was another layer to peel off.
Damn it! More work to do.
Fortunately, I came across the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza, author, international speaker, and researcher on the neuroscience of change. After attending one of his retreats in 2019, I applied to become a corporate trainer to bring his teachings to organizations. Little did I know that I would emerge profoundly changed myself before bringing the workshop to others.
One of the models taught in the workshop is that our personality creates our personal reality and that our personality is made up of:
· how we think,
· how we act, and
· how we feel.
I always knew the value of positive thinking but didn’t realize that positive thinking alone wouldn’t result in the changes I was looking for in my life. The models and tools I learned in the workshop started to effect changes in my life as I practiced applying them while studying for my certification as a Neurochange Solutions Corporate Consultant.
I made conscious choices to think, act, and feel differently.
Then it happened. As I was coaching one of my clients after they went through my workshop, I realized that like a quilt patch, held in place by many threads, I was still feeling frustration related to my to-do list on a regular basis. I had to cut all of the thoughts holding that emotion in place in order to truly be free from the remnants of anxiety.
Since subconscious thoughts are often at the root of unwanted habits, it was helpful to explore different thoughts, or states of mind, that are listed in Dr. Joe Dispenza’s book “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”, in Chapter 11, Examples of Limiting States of Mind, such as overwhelmed, needing recognition, and self-pity, to help me be able to let them go.
Frustration is a survival emotion, and so is anxiety. Subconsciously I had these two activities on my to-do list, and they were taking up a lot of time. I rarely experience states of frustration or anxiety anymore, and when I do, they are short-lived.
In my workshop, Change Your Mind ~ Create New Results, developed by Dr. Joe Dispenza, you will learn the models and tools to enable you to make conscious changes in your life. The follow-up coaching will provide the methods to ensure that the changes are sustainable.
Register here for a free webinar on September 23, from 11:30 am – 12:30 pm EST, to explore how the workshop and coaching may help you. There will be an opportunity to register for the workshop and coaching after the webinar.